Is a relationship about "the chase"?

This evening I updated my facebook status to "Love is a temporary madness". I was NOT expecting it to become a heated debate.  The discussion, Lead by fikret Serbface, India Grayson and Mel White was based around the interaction between males and females and knowing "the one".

Miss India Grayson made the turning point - "But the point is, no girl is ever going to get a guy if she doesnt let him chase her"...."But why cant he call you? Are his fingers broken? Cant he take 23 seconds to send a text?  If hes not texting you, he hasn't thought about doing it, if he doesnt want to text you to hang out, he doesnt want to hang out....So why waste your time on someone who doesnt want to hang out".


Ok I shall discuss my point.  Just because a guy doesnt txt you first doesnt mean that hes not into you.  Girls wait for the guy to call but why cant the guy be waiting for the girl to call?  Its all about the situation AND the people involved.  Fucking around waiting is only going to prevent things from progressing.  Why can't it be equal?  There is no formula to follow in order for progression into a relationship, and a good one at that.  This doesnt mean instantly that he wont be "the one" - How can you possibly know this yet?  The way to attract someone depends on the person they are and the person you are.  People arnt all attracted to the same things.  Some people like to chase whilst it makes others insecure and so they give up but however it is done, one day we shall hopefully each find "the one".